What's up sweet kids!
How are you?
I've treated this blog like a pet project unlike most of my writing projects in the past. I've learned that the folks that read blogs are the following:
-Over forty
-Millennials
-Nosey people
-If under forty, nosier tea spillers
-Bored people
-Literarily-inclined book readers
-Friends
-Not-so-good friends
-Enemies
-Frenemies
-Exes
-People who think the blog might be about them
There are so many other titles I could throw out there, but I think the listing above will do well for today's entry.
My last blog entry, "The Final Heartbreak", had QUITE the response. People wrote some beautiful comments. Some people wanted the nitty gritty, the names, the people, the timeline, etc. Some folks told me they wanted to hug me. Others took a different approach: "the things you post worry me", "I had no clue you were going through that", "you pick the wrong people to help", "please call me if you need anything, I'm here for you."
No you're not.
You're nosey.
I give people what they want and they say dumb shit like, "the things you post worry me."
Well, don't get so worried. I'm the one who lived the adventures I write about and I know how to handle me. In fact, I'm the only person who knows how to handle me. Everyone else overreacts or acts like they are oblivious.
One lady told me she didn't know how to click the link to my blog.
Um... you click the link, dip shit.
How can you book flights out of the country from your phone, but you can't click a link? I worry about HER, NOT ME.
I had a person give me a sizable critique of what a vicious, scathing person I am only for me to respond with, "did you read my blog from the author's point of view?"
No. She didn't.
To be honest, I don't think she is intellectually aware to know how to do that. She is defensive and likes to argue with me. She's not going to win that argument since I think she's dumb to begin with.
When you are as public as me and you say the things you say or write the things you write (in my case), you're going to get feedback. I'm open to feedback. I wouldn't write the blog if I wasn't. I, do, however, screen my critiques online and in-person.
Who are you to me?
Do you really care?
Do I even like you or value you?
Are you a smart person?
Do you read?
Do you know me outside of social media or outside of my blog?
I mostly shrug a lot of words off. I don't really care what people think of me. That mentality and attitude has served me quite well for decades.
I'm currently working on a few writing projects outside of my blog, teaching and business. I have a podcast in the works and speaking engagements booked. I'm happy to be back or on the brink of being back to that world.
The reason I wrote the last blog was to let go and move on of someone and a situation I couldn't hold on to anymore.
In order for me to write and speak in a public setting, I need to lessen my distractions.
Two things you should know about me (my close friends know this):
I do not drink and write and I do not write when I'm upset.
There's no reasoning with a drunk person or an emotionally distraught person, but their feelings are valid. When the booze has worn off and they have regained clarity, their feelings are valid. When they post a blog and you hate it, their feelings are still valid. When they tell you the story as it happens or a year later, their feelings are (you guessed it) valid.
No matter what I write about or how I feel, my feelings are always valid and I will always tell the truth in love, whether the reader or the people I talk about like my feelings or not.
If you don't like what I have to say about you, do better.
That's all.
xo, j.
